From where I’m sitting

Reflections on relationships, connection, and the courage to grow

Is this love or just social media talking?
Benjamin Finlayson Benjamin Finlayson

Is this love or just social media talking?

Social media often reduces relationships to simple rules and trends, but love and connection are far more complex. Learn why online relationship advice can be misleading and how couples can focus on authentic connection instead.

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It takes a village.
Benjamin Finlayson Benjamin Finlayson

It takes a village.

Life’s challenges are easier to navigate with a supportive community. Discover why your village sustains you, strengthens resilience, and lifts you when you fall.

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You are allowed to begin again.
Benjamin Finlayson Benjamin Finlayson

You are allowed to begin again.

Life does not require perfection; you are allowed to reset, rebuild, and begin again. Discover how reflection, courage, and support make new beginnings possible.

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Not everything you carry is yours.
Benjamin Finlayson Benjamin Finlayson

Not everything you carry is yours.

Many people carry emotional burdens that were never theirs to hold. Learn how reflection, therapy, and connection can help you release the weight and lighten the load.

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The service, pt.1
Benjamin Finlayson Benjamin Finlayson

The service, pt.1

As the lights raised and people began to take their seats, I took a quick glance around the room to notice that we were (seemingly) the only same-sex pair sitting in the room. The message started as they do - scripture reading - casual joke - then a dive into the Word. The minister challenged their audience that what we practice becomes what we are.

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Sifting through the rubble.
Benjamin Finlayson Benjamin Finlayson

Sifting through the rubble.

There have been a lot of moments that felt like a tornado ripping through my very spirit. Moments that I thought I would not get through. Having calls made for my expulsion from University because of my identity. Losing friends because of their own prejudiced ideals against the queer community. But, what is remarkable is how my soul continued to grow - it persisted. The trees grew through the rubble - still visible - still very much a part of my history - but now surrounded by new growth - new hope in what comes after the storm. ⁠

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Loving yourself is radical.
Benjamin Finlayson Benjamin Finlayson

Loving yourself is radical.

There are moments in life when you can feel slightly out of sorts—nothing catastrophic, nothing you can necessarily point to and name, just a quiet heaviness that settles into your body. The kind of feeling that makes everything seem a little duller, a little slower, a little more distant than usual. I had one of those moments recently.

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